Time

I have lied, fibbed, failed to tell the truth whatever you want to call it. I am pretty sure as I sit here that there is not one among us that has not done the same.

So as I am confronted with a battery of "fibs" , and I must dole out the necessary consequences. But what are those? This is a road I have not walked in a long time at least a decade.

You see years ago I found that if we treat people with respect and understanding they realize themselves without that awkward moment, that lying and fibbing are not really necessary. That respect, understanding and forgiveness and be realized and gained by facing your situation and asking for help with a course correction.

I don't yell, I don't punish, or ground, (lets be honest where is a 10 year old going without you anyway?) So what do I do?

At this point I am talking, listening and trying to understand why it is acceptable in one culture(his), and I expect he is confused why it is not acceptable or tolerated at all in mine. Its been a tough week.

I wonder and think to myself can it be that we need to strip down the outside layers so that the true beauty can grow successfully?

Sunday.

Homecoming and true love

It rained, winds were blustery and raw. It would be homecoming. Soccer at 9:15 which my darling husband went to while I tried ward off an impending cold at home. By noon we were headed out to buy shoes, shirts, ties and flowers, the rain fell off and on throughout our trip.
Have you ever tried to go to buy shoes with a teenager? Add into the equation a foreign teenager now whose thoughts on fashion style and sense are very different and for good measure throw in a cold, and limited time. And did I mention the ordered flowers were the wrong color? By 4 pm we had maneuvered our way though piles of ties and drifts of shoe boxes. BY 4:20 everyone was showered and dressed. I was still unpacking groceries and there they stood dressed looking to learn how to tie ties.
I felt bad I thought their parents should be here for this, but the least I could do is take pictures of the moments and send the pictures.
Chen was going to a friends house and would be going with the boys to the dance. Julius had chosen the date route. That meant everyone had to be at their assigned party within minutes of each other and since Murphy's Law was in play that meant it would be across town. My son Alex was having a spend the night and wires got crossed and the wrong child showed up so his parents had to be called, could it get any crazier, yep. We also had to be at a wedding at the same exact time in an entirely different direction, and don't forget the appetizers. Well everything went off without a hitch, well with the exception that David was so busy making ties that when he got to the wedding he realized he forgot his. I was busy taking pictures and delivering my appetizers I left my purse at the homecoming party! Oh and it was rainy and wet at the reception so I resembled a wet rat, with a bad cold...we laughed and took it all in stride and decided there was no doubt that, that was true love and your average homecoming.